My fertility and my wife’s

I’m a man. Red blooded like the rest of us. I enjoy breaking things, eating meat, scratching, and the normal guy stuff. Every morning though I remind my wife “Take your temp.” Why?

Cause I don’t want her getting pregnant, yet.

If your married and you think that she should be handling “that department” all her own think again. Remember it takes two to Tango and some very basic understanding of physiology will go a LONG way in helping her (thereby lessening the chances of an “accident”). You will also learn a great deal about her moods and their changes as well.

Your first starting point is fertility friend. I know your a guy the web sites geared for women get over it.  The site has an excellent course on charting and fertility in general sign up here. Second stop is webmd.com for info on infertility. You need to clean up your life and take better care of your self. If you are overweight, a smoker, a drinker, heavy on the caffeine, or had any of the issues on webmd’s page you need to deal with them.  When you’re married and you’re doin the business things can happen. Nothing is fool proof. Your job as man-of-your-castle is to make sure that if you do get your darling wife preggers that the kid comes out normal and intact. Cleaning up your life will help that.

As you go down this journey of fertility you learn all kinds of crazy stuff but here is what you need to focus on.

Ovulation is the time her body releases an egg and she can get pregnant. Their is a small window of opportunity each month of getting pregnant.  After the window shuts their is very little chance of her getting pregnant. So you need to be learning to watch for signs of this impending event.  After awhile you will learn them and it will become second nature.

CM (cervical mucus) it sounds really gross but this is the big inidicator. You need to learn what the stuff looks like, what the really dangerous stuff feels like and so on. Their are various ways of checking and you can do so without destroying any religious convictions (fertility friend has alternate methods of checking.) But by all means check for it. Temperature is great for gauging when ovulation has happened but terrible for predicting it. Cm can tell you it’s coming, and if a weird freak of nature should happen and your wife ovulates twice in one month cm will warn you before a positive pregnancy test did!

Mood can also be an indicator of her impending ovulation. Hormones start to fluctuate and she will change based on what’s in her blood at a given moment. GET A NOTEBOOK AND WRITE DOWN WHAT HER MOODS ARE. Track it for a month. Compare notes with her chart. Suddenly a pattern emerges.  My gosh it makes sense now why she acts a certain every so often. Get the picture?

As far as birth control goes read up on it and actually talk it over with her. Several of the options have good and bad sides to them. Hormonal birth control doesn’t do so well for my wife. Her body doesn’t like it and it does weird things to her. Take that into consideration. Here is an in depth article on birth control. Read it and do some studies on the side effects from your chosen bc. I personally like NFP. It’s hormone free and allows for nice intimate contact most of the month. During the danger zone though we take extra precautions. Using this method we have not had a single surprise in 10 years. Us men are smart. We are not the drooling neanderthals we are made out to be. Use this issue to prove it.

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